14 months and tantrums?
Question: my son is having tantrums already whats the best passageway to handle it , ignore or cuddling them or distraction
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My daughter is 2 and has one and the same issue. I asked the doctor. He said tantrums are usually for attention and NOT to cuddle them or distract them to just agree to them have their fit and pay no attention to it, making sure that they are in a place they can not hurt themselves while rolling around screaming.
Cuddling will simply give them what they want, the attention, and it will reinforce the perception that they can get what they want if they cry and cry.
Try spending some "special time" with him when he is not throwing fits and see if that help. I have notice a huge diffence with my daughter since we started getting a moment or two "us" time
A combination of ignoring and diverting their attention.
Offer an stir or toy of some sort and if that doesn't help. Walk away and agree to them carry on near their tantrum. If nobody is there to scrutinize, they won't continue.
I'm am training to be a nursery nurse, and what we do is discount them, i know it sounds nasty but its really not. your son is have tantrums and what you should do is tell him what he is doing is not right and afterwards just fail to acknowledge him, because he wants your attention, and once you own give him attention when he is have a tantrum then he will suggest its right and he will do it again. so you should ignore him when he starts have a tantrum and he will soon realise that he's not getting very far by doing this! and hopefully he will stop.
Good luck ! =)
Always forget about. He does this for attention the same agency my brother did. If you ignore him he wont be getting the attention he be looking for in the first place and they will be shorter and he will eventually stop.
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I own a two year old and whenever she's nearly to have a tantrum...I lay her contained by a safe nouns where she can't hurt herself and I scrutinize her have her tantrum short reacting to it. Then when she's done I ask "Do you surface better now?" And afterwards she's a happy camper again..She realize that when I don't react and and so not getting any feedback, she stops and then go about doing what she did previously. Works for me!
Diversion is favourite
Walk away and discount if and when possible - second choice
Lay on the floor and have one near them, if it don't scare the duration out of them, it makes you be aware of better! (Only kidding - but I own been sorely tempt, seen the advert?)
It tend to depend of WHERE it happen to - they seem to KNOW a moment ago when and where it is most decisive, which tells me, they do hold control to begin beside - later into the tantrum they loose it completely, can you remember that inkling? Scary, not saying one should REWARD them for it but to provide them some space and time to cool down, positive behaviour to positive manner.
Good luck!!
It would depend ion the child's mood and why he is throwing the tantrum. You will have to choose when the time comes. Parenting is pretty much trial and error, a moment ago stay calm
distraction works powerfully w/ my 15 month old. Hand him a toy or book he like...worst case scenario, Baby Einstein video to help yourself to his mind off of what he's screaming something like.
all kids try near the tantrums to see how far they can get up to that time you something about it. do you see nanny 911 its great. if he is throwing a tantrum put him out in the passage and close the door and tell him when he is finished he can come subsidise in. i know it's complex but it works. if he wont share his toys with others steal the toys away from him and say when you share you can enjoy them back. iv'e be there so i know what it is similar to
my son who,s now 26 used to story on the kitchen floor having his tantrum, so i used to bearing out and sit in lounge, he soon get over it when he was disregarded, he,s now grown up to be a fine man, married near a baby of his own on the route, i wonder if history will repeat!
My daughter is 2 now and be having little tantrums since give or take a few 16 months old i usually distract her next to something and she forgets what she is fussing about. It will help yourself to a few minutes but next time he fusses pretend to look out the pane and say "oh what's that out in that?' Or play peek-a-boo, everytiime i do that my daughter ends up laughing and gets over it. Then i cuddle her. I estimate ignoring them is cruel, how would you similar to to be upset about something and basically have someone totally close the eyes to you or walk away while you be freaking out?
i wrote on here a few weeks ago. my 18 month grand son have terrible . for dearth of a better word. fits, we took the advice and basically ignored him and he have totally quit. just receive sure that nothing is wrong to rationale them . good luck
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